As the year comes to a close, I feel almost obligated to reflect on the past twelve months and the experiences that have shaped who I am heading into the new year. I don’t, by any means, consider myself an influencer or someone whose opinion of the year you even care to read. Still, I hope that somewhere, someone finds a piece of this relatable.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

• You shouldn’t have to lose yourself – or any part of yourself – to attract the love you deserve. A common theme I hear among women is that we’re “too much” for people. Our standards, our hopes and dreams for future relationships, our personal goals and ambitions, it’s all “too much.” I say to hell with that. It is so tiring constantly trying to mold yourself into a more likable version of who you are. The people in your life should love you for who you are. All of who you are. End of story.
  
• You do not have to have it all figured out right now. I’m at an age where I’m starting to see my peers getting engaged, announcing pregnancies, moving out, or celebrating new jobs. It’s easy to feel stuck in a cycle of thinking I’m behind where I should be. But always remember: your life moves at your pace. You don’t need to be married with three children and a six-figure job to prove your success. It is perfectly okay to celebrate the small wins throughout the day. Progress is progress, no matter what. Believe in yourself, work hard, and everything will fall into place when it’s meant to.
  
• Change is a part of life. In less than a week, I’ll be starting a new job after working at the same place for the last seven and a half years. It’s a big change – one that hasn’t fully hit me yet – but I’m learning to welcome the uncertainty and get excited for what’s ahead. Change is inevitable. Take it in stride, and you’ll do just fine.
  
• Love what you love. This blog is a perfect example of how I’m constantly learning to embrace the things I’m passionate about without feeling embarrassed. Maturing doesn’t mean you have to let go of the “nerdy” or “childish” things you enjoy. Hell, I still open a coloring book every now and then, especially when I want a break from my devices. Highlighting your passions is what makes life fun and what makes your personality shine.
  
• Last but not least… it’s okay to be sad. A lot happened this year, and just about everyone I’ve talked to has shared how difficult it’s been for them. Humans aren’t meant to be solitary, especially during the harder seasons of life. Don’t be afraid to reach out to loved ones or a medical health professional (yes, therapy is a wonderful thing!!) when you need help. Everyone gets sad sometimes. Everyone needs help sometimes. Please take care of yourself. Let yourself process the emotions, then find ways to lift your spirits. You’ve got this.

I’m walking into 2026 more confident and sure of myself than I ever have been, even if I don’t have every detail figured out yet. Here’s to staying soft in a hard world, loving ourselves fully, and trusting the timing of our lives, one step at a time.

Happy New Year ❤
Kenzie